Put your hands up if you’re the ultimate ‘muliti-tasker’?
Silly question really. Mums are famously notorious – that’s how we roll, right?
Unfortunately, though, most women may describe multitasking as a “negative” experience, which creates stress. Fair call, but I think we need to also salute the many hats we wear:
- Child Entertainer etc –
Put it all together and what have you got? A mother (i.e. being highly skilled in a vast number of different areas).
The key is to be able to juggle without potential ‘mummy burn out’ or sheer exhaustion. Some signs include:
- Constant yelling at the kids
- Low productivity
- Problems sleeping
- Reduced enjoyment of your children
- Lack of motivation
- Negative attitude
I don’t have all the answers, but I do think there are some tweaks that can help you take care of yourself….OR… you’re no good for anyone!
1. Take time to rest. Easier said than done. But mums need time out too.
2. Tone down the mum guilt. The perfect mum does not exist. Pinterest may think so, but that’s a lie.
3. Find a support system. Divide and conquer, and accept all the help you can get. If you have someone who’s willing to help, let them. Remember, it takes a village.
4. Avoid negative people. Surround yourself with people that lift your spirits, not drag you down.
5. Watch your gadget time. Spending too much time comparing yourself to others is a real drainer. Stop that right now and get too bed earlier. Refreshed mind gives a refreshed outlook.
6. Let your kids be kids. They don’t call it childish behaviour for nothing. Accept that there will be mess, piles of washing and constant crumbs on the car seat floor.
7. Find the joy. Whilst I’m all for seeking balance in the everyday daily grind, the truth is no two days are exactly the same. You may find that balance happens organically when do something that you love each day with your spouse, yourself and your children. Usually it’s the little things in life that make the happiest moments.
8. Practice saying ‘no’. If you are stretched to the limit, chances are your kids are too. Recognise when you’re feeling overloaded and resist the temptation to say yes to everything. Weigh it up and avoid over scheduling as much as possible.
9. Eat wholesome foods and get plenty of exercise. How you treat your body will impact your mood.
10. Aim for a ‘good-enough’ parenting style. In other words, strive for progress not perfection.
Related post: why mums need to re-think self care.
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